Current state assessment – analyse de l’état actuel

Comment savoir quelle voie suivre afin d’arriver à notre but, si nous ne sommes pas sûr où se trouve notre point de départ sur notre carte routière ? Et comment mesurer notre progres lorsque nous n’avons pas pris la peine de bien marquer en avance de notre départ quelques points de référence importants ici et là sur le parcours planifié ?

 Cette section nous aidera à identifier le premier de ces deux points. Ne commencez pas avant d’avoir reconnu notre département “identification de ses buts” d’abord, cela vous aidera à déterminer si vous êtes quelqu’un qui préfère les approches “top down” ou plutôt le type opposé, qui aime commencer au rez-de-chaussée et puis grimper vers la hauteur. Ce dernier type représente les personnes qui n’ont aucun problème de constater clairement ce qui leur déplaît dans leur vie présente, et puis sont capables de bien déterminer quelle mesure d’amélioration ils veulent réaliser avant de pouvoir parler d’un but qui mérite d’être poursuivi.

O.K. – on y va:

Prenez un bout de papier convenable, qui ira bien dans le sac ou porte-dossiers qui vous accompagne habituellement où que vous allez, et sortez votre stylo ! Vous aimez les couleurs ? Allez-y, sortez-les aussi !

 Draw a circle in the middle and label it as “now”, and then draw a lot of lines coming out of it, as if you were going to draw a sun with its rays. The “rays”can be anything from straight, bent, frizzly, branch-like … be creative whilst bearing in mind that you will want to use these lines to put or “hang” some words and short phrases on, so not too close together.

 Now, start with one ray and decide whether you are going to “load” it with things you like about your family life as it is now, or rather the opposite, and then: “go !!!!” – just keepon writing down all that jumps to your mind and be sure to keep positive aspects apart from the negative ones, that is the ones you are not entirely satisfied with or simply mad about, sad about, etc.

 Try to keep one emotion per line, so you can color them later on and get a coded view of the state of affairs.

…. go on to the next page when done with this, and do not feel shy to take several days to complete this task or to make your drawing over and over, copying the “well defined parts” and reviewing the “not so clear ones” for as many times as it takes for you to feel satisfied with your work – satisfied enough to go on with the step of checking out how much each of these points weigh in your total experience of (un)happiness about your family.

 If you happen to notice some dissatisfactions popping up that do not directly have to do with your family but rather with your job, or another area in your life that bothers you from time to time – don’t worry: just note these in the same way, but on another paper with another label in its center circle.

 You will see that you can just as well apply the same principles we are going to walk you through with regard to family issues, to address these other points of possible improvement in your life – hey, we did not leave anything out here: you are a person with many dimensions, and it is even very common to find out whilst working on one area of one’s life, that others also need some repair works done …